Goodbye Gralin - The Barrow-Downs Discussion Forum

Precioussss · 05-10-2006, 12:37 PM

Hi.

This is a memorial to my friend Anne or, as you may know her, Gralin Musicteeth.
She will not be coming back to the Barrow Downs anymore.
She died on April 28th, 2006 of brain cancer.
Barrow-Wight, you may shut down her account or whatever it is you do.
Thanks.

Valier · 05-10-2006, 01:38 PM

I would like to send my condolences.... I had talked with her through pm and found her to be witty and funny...I pmed with her about her Buttress signature...I found it amusing...She thought it funny that I knew a Buttress to be a type of Arch used in architecture.... so following the song of one was hilarious! I never knew her, but when I hear the word Buttress it makes me smile and think of Gralin.

May she rest in peace

JennyHallu · 05-10-2006, 01:54 PM

Thank you, Preciousss, for letting us know. Gralin's clever riddle made me smile, and she shall be missed here. God bless and care for you and her other friends and family. My prayers are with you.

narfforc · 05-10-2006, 02:50 PM

Memories mean no-one ever truly dies, I offer you my condolences and give you the hope that your friend may be in a better place, and in deep conversation with The Prof.

Roa_Aoife · 05-10-2006, 04:27 PM

Gralin is a member I truly respect. She was always fun to interact with. I will truly miss her seeing her around the Downs.

I know nothing we can say or do here will make it all better. No one can make the loss of a friend less painful. Please remmber though, there are people who care and are willing to listen. Don't let it shut you down. If you ever need to talk, please message me.

And do take care of yourself, Precious.

Also, a special request to the Barrow Wight- please leave Gralin's account active for a little while longer.

Feanor of the Peredhil · 05-10-2006, 06:38 PM

My condolences to gralin's family and friends. She will be missed.

Celuien · 05-10-2006, 06:42 PM

My condolences as well to you, Precioussss, and to all of Gralin's family and friends. She will truly be missed.

Farewell, Gralin.

The Only Real Estel · 05-10-2006, 07:09 PM

Condolences to Gralin's family and friends, I'm sorry to hear about it.

Just checking: this isn't another "Crystal Heart", is it?

I'm assuming it's legit, but when you've been burned once...

Lhunardawen · 05-10-2006, 08:17 PM

A wise precaution, Estel. But I never thought I'd see the real thing...

My condolences to gralin's loved ones.

Oddwen · 05-10-2006, 08:42 PM

My condolences and prayers are with the family.

Farael · 05-10-2006, 08:43 PM

My condolences and best wishes to Gralin's family and loved ones.

Glirdan · 05-11-2006, 06:08 PM

My condolences and wishes to both her family and friends.

Lush · 05-12-2006, 04:24 PM

My condolences. Cancer is... ehhh. We're all going to be touched by it, or are already touched by it.

Stay strong.

Durelin · 05-13-2006, 02:28 PM

God bless her, and all her family and friends.

Rune Son of Bjarne · 09-29-2006, 06:09 PM

I would like to send my condolences however late they might be.

I was away at the time of this tragedy so I did not know, hearing this now has left me absolutely devastated. I honestly feel like weeping after reading this.
I did not have much contact with Gralin, but the little I had was very positive indeed and when the shock disappears; I will remember her with joy. She is a person I am happy to have known the little I did.

I hope I don't upset anyone by bringing this up again, hopefully you are able to think back on Gralin and remember the good things she brought rather than her sad ending.

Mithalwen · 10-05-2006, 01:04 PM

I am glad you have bumped this up, I always meant to post here but I tarried - partly because I fell into the "once bitten, twice shy category" and partly because (with no disrespect to Precioussss intended) I really hoped this was another hoax. Then the moment passed.

I was aware of Gralin as someone bright and funny but I did not really know her, so moved by the unmitigated tragedy of her death, I read through a lot of her posts. Most of these are to be found in the Quiz and Mirth forums but not all.

Three I would like to draw your attention to:

Firstly Gralin in her own words.

Secondly What Tolkien meant to her.

Thirdly Her farewell.

Reading these increased my sadness but it also increased my admiration. She had clearly had difficulties in her life before her fatal illness, yet the experience had not embittered her - Gralin assigned nothing to Mordor. Even if she wasn't referring to her diagnosis in the third post - almost her last, it is almost unbearably poignant. She has haunted my thoughts a great deal in the past months and is highly effective in giving a true sense of perspective. While I now pay her a belated tribute, I will try to always remember her joie de vivre and complete lack of self-pity. Therefore I will not say goodbye.

05-10-2006, 12:37 PM	#1
Precioussss Wight Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Dancing on this earth for a short while Posts: 111	Goodbye Gralin Hi. This is a memorial to my friend Anne or, as you may know her, Gralin Musicteeth. She will not be coming back to the Barrow Downs anymore. She died on April 28th, 2006 of brain cancer. Barrow-Wight, you may shut down her account or whatever it is you do. Thanks. __________________ I am against nature. I don't dig nature at all. I think nature is very unnatural. I think the truly natural things are dreams, which nature can't touch with decay. - Bob Dylan

05-10-2006, 01:38 PM	#2
Valier Twisted Taleswapper Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: somewhere between sanity and insanity Posts: 1,706	I would like to send my condolences.... I had talked with her through pm and found her to be witty and funny...I pmed with her about her Buttress signature...I found it amusing...She thought it funny that I knew a Buttress to be a type of Arch used in architecture.... so following the song of one was hilarious! I never knew her, but when I hear the word Buttress it makes me smile and think of Gralin. May she rest in peace __________________ grand return?........

05-10-2006, 01:54 PM	#3
JennyHallu The Pearl, The Lily Maid Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: In my luxury Barrow, snuggled up in a pile of satin pillows, eating fresh fruit. Posts: 1,628	Thank you, Preciousss, for letting us know. Gralin's clever riddle made me smile, and she shall be missed here. God bless and care for you and her other friends and family. My prayers are with you. __________________ <=== Lookee, lookee, lots of IM handles!

05-10-2006, 02:50 PM	#4
narfforc Ghost Prince of Cardolan Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Muddy-earth Posts: 1,297	With us forever........... Memories mean no-one ever truly dies, I offer you my condolences and give you the hope that your friend may be in a better place, and in deep conversation with The Prof. __________________ [B]THE LORD OF THE GRINS:THE ONE PARODY....A PARODY BETTER THAN THE RINGS OF POWER.

05-10-2006, 04:27 PM	#5
Roa_Aoife Ghost Prince of Cardolan Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Someday, I'll rule all of it. Posts: 1,696	Gralin is a member I truly respect. She was always fun to interact with. I will truly miss her seeing her around the Downs. I know nothing we can say or do here will make it all better. No one can make the loss of a friend less painful. Please remmber though, there are people who care and are willing to listen. Don't let it shut you down. If you ever need to talk, please message me. And do take care of yourself, Precious. Also, a special request to the Barrow Wight- please leave Gralin's account active for a little while longer. __________________ We can't all be Roas* when it comes to analysing...* -Lommy I didn't say you're evil, Roa, I said you're exasperating. -Nerwen Last edited by Roa_Aoife; 05-10-2006 at 04:59 PM.

05-10-2006, 06:38 PM	#6
Feanor of the Peredhil La Belle Dame sans Merci Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: perpetual uncertainty Posts: 5,517	My condolences to gralin's family and friends. She will be missed. __________________ peace

05-10-2006, 06:42 PM	#7
Celuien Riveting Ribbiter Join Date: May 2005 Location: Assigned to Mordor Posts: 1,767	My condolences as well to you, Precioussss, and to all of Gralin's family and friends. She will truly be missed. Farewell, Gralin.

05-10-2006, 07:09 PM	#8
The Only Real Estel Raffish Rapscallion Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Far from the 'Downs, it seems :-( Posts: 2,835	Condolences to Gralin's family and friends, I'm sorry to hear about it. Just checking: this isn't another "Crystal Heart", is it? I'm assuming it's legit, but when you've been burned once...

05-10-2006, 08:17 PM	#9
Lhunardawen Hauntress of the Havens Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: IN it, but not OF it Posts: 2,538	A wise precaution, Estel. But I never thought I'd see the real thing... My condolences to gralin's loved ones.

05-10-2006, 08:42 PM	#10
Oddwen Drummer in the Deep Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Next Sunday A.D. Posts: 2,145	My condolences and prayers are with the family. __________________ But all the while I sit and think of times there were before I listen for returning feet and voices at the door

05-10-2006, 08:43 PM	#11
Farael Ghost Prince of Cardolan Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: In hospitals, call rooms and (rarely) my apartment. Posts: 1,538	My condolences and best wishes to Gralin's family and loved ones.

05-11-2006, 06:08 PM	#12
Glirdan Energetic Essence Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Where Lark Nor Eagle Ever Flew Posts: 3,285	My condolences and wishes to both her family and friends. __________________ *I'm going to buy you a kitty, I'm going to let you fall in love with the kitty, and one cold, winter night, I'm going to steal into your house and punch you in the face!* Fenris Wolf

05-12-2006, 04:24 PM	#13
Lush Fair and Cold Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: the big onion Posts: 1,770	My condolences. Cancer is... ehhh. We're all going to be touched by it, or are already touched by it. Stay strong. __________________ ~The beginning is the word and the end is silence. And in between are all the stories. This is one of mine~

05-13-2006, 02:28 PM	#14
Durelin Estelo dagnir, Melo ring Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 3,063	God bless her, and all her family and friends.

10-05-2006, 01:04 PM	#16
Mithalwen Pilgrim Soul Join Date: May 2004 Location: watching the wonga-wonga birds circle... Posts: 9,458	I am glad you have bumped this up, I always meant to post here but I tarried - partly because I fell into the "once bitten, twice shy category" and partly because (with no disrespect to Precioussss intended) I really hoped this was another hoax. Then the moment passed. I was aware of Gralin as someone bright and funny but I did not really know her, so moved by the unmitigated tragedy of her death, I read through a lot of her posts. Most of these are to be found in the Quiz and Mirth forums but not all. Three I would like to draw your attention to: Firstly Gralin in her own words. Secondly What Tolkien meant to her. Thirdly Her farewell. Reading these increased my sadness but it also increased my admiration. She had clearly had difficulties in her life before her fatal illness, yet the experience had not embittered her - Gralin assigned nothing to Mordor. Even if she wasn't referring to her diagnosis in the third post - almost her last, it is almost unbearably poignant. She has haunted my thoughts a great deal in the past months and is highly effective in giving a true sense of perspective. While I now pay her a belated tribute, I will try to always remember her joie de vivre and complete lack of self-pity. Therefore I will not say goodbye. __________________ “But Finrod walks with Finarfin his father beneath the trees in Eldamar.” Christopher Tolkien, Requiescat in pace Last edited by Mithalwen; 04-11-2008 at 03:10 PM.