Formendacil and Nienna Announce Their Engagement - The Barrow-Downs Discussion Forum

Formendacil · 05-02-2011, 08:33 AM

Because of the fact that this site played a central role in our original acquaintance and in the earlier stages of simple friendship development, it seemed fair that the "breaking news" of our engagement on the Internet should be made here, rather than Facebook--though the paparazzi have already leaked it there.

Approximately two years ago, I met Nienna, while I was meeting one Feanor of the Peredhil, whose roommate she happened to be. In the aftermath of that meeting, we became friends and when I was looking to make a major change in my life plans--and in so doing move as far away as I could from western Canada--I made a choice to go somewhere I knew people: namely Boston, where I had met the aforementioned ladies.

This fateful decision and the fact that Nienna was the person I knew best in Boston eventually led to our friendship developing into a romantic relationship, and even before I moved to Boston, we were "a couple" (as any Downer who was at Bostonmoot could probably attest). Yesterday I got down on one knee and pulled out a ring, and asked her to marry me--and she said yes!--thus putting us in line for becoming the next in a string of "Downer Married Couples."

Given the importance this website has played in allowing us to meet each other, you all have our thanks on that basic level, but you are quite a bit more than just that. Many of you have become the extended social circle that has provided a number of real-life friends, and it is highly conceivable that a number of you will be posting to the "I met a fellow BDer" thread in the wake of our nuptials (which, for those inquiring, is tentatively dated for "June-ish, 2012").

Inziladun · 05-02-2011, 08:38 AM

Let me be the first to congratulate you here, my friend! All the best wishes for your future happiness.

Rumil · 05-02-2011, 09:57 AM

Many Congratulations Formendacil and Nienna!

Feanor of the Peredhil · 05-02-2011, 12:49 PM

Congratulations, my darlings. You know I've always wished you both nothing but the best. Unless you try to dress me in pumpkin orange (I am glaring straight at you, Formykins), in which case I am boycotting your wedding and sabotaging the hen party.

Pitchwife · 05-02-2011, 01:15 PM

Now if that doesn't beat the royal wedding!

I'm glad for you two and wish you all the best for a happy future marriage!

Eönwë · 05-02-2011, 02:25 PM

Wow! Congratulations Formy and Nienna!

piosenniel · 05-02-2011, 02:30 PM

Congratulations to you both! Wishing you a very happy life together!!

~*~ Pio

Boromir88 · 05-02-2011, 03:48 PM

Love both of you very dearly, you know this

Galadriel55 · 05-02-2011, 03:52 PM

Congratulations!!!

I wish you all the best!

Nienna · 05-02-2011, 04:44 PM

Thank you all for your congratulations and well wishes. For those who'd like the story in a bit more sappy version:

Formendacil and I were going out to my back yard to take some new pictures of us together. We were all dressed nice and I wanted a new picture of us together. We got out to the spot and then instead of pulling the camera out of his pocket he pulled the little ring box and got down on his knee. It was very adorable. And the ring is gorgeous (if a tad big).

Mnemosyne · 05-02-2011, 05:19 PM

Oh, no, not again...

No, seriously, congratulations to the both of you.

Legate of Amon Lanc · 05-02-2011, 05:46 PM

I of course join the host of congratulations - this is wonderful news. I am very happy for the two of you, and I will save a prayer or two in your direction. And now that I think back, I must smile at the beauty of your "story". I just remembered certain Form saying somewhere randomly about three years ago something about wondering if meeting Downers in person might not be hazardous. I could perhaps put it a bit more differently (and it of course goes for both of you) - "it is a dangerous business, my dear Frodo, going to meet a 'Downer... there's no knowing where you might be swept off to". Just like with Bilbo, however, such a way of "being swept" might be a wonderful journey. So all the best for you two, sharing the journey!

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Originally Posted by Pitchwife

Now if that doesn't beat the royal wedding!

Surely! I mean, really, this is something that really makes me happy, and interests me far more than some random royal folks (bah). Such a thing beats all front page news... and now I would really wish somebody to try to tell me that we live in a merciless and unfeeling world!

I just hope that Form and Nienna are not going to suffer from exactly the same thing as the royal family did, being in the center of attention of all 'Downers as celebrities, and that we offer them enough privacy to enjoy this happiness

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Originally Posted by Nienna

Thank you all for your congratulations and well wishes. For those who'd like the story in a bit more sappy version:

Formendacil and I were going out to my back yard to take some new pictures of us together. We were all dressed nice and I wanted a new picture of us together. We got out to the spot and then instead of pulling the camera out of his pocket he pulled the little ring box and got down on his knee. It was very adorable. And the ring is gorgeous (if a tad big).

Only a small remark in the end - a tad big, you say? Just, well, you know, I suggest checking it in front of a fireplace. I mean, just in case. We all know Form is a nice guy, but... just in case.

Boromir88 · 05-02-2011, 06:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Legate of Amon Lanc

Only a small remark in the end - a tad big, you say? Just, well, you know, I suggest checking it in front of a fireplace. I mean, just in case. We all know Form is a nice guy, but... just in case.

No no.

Crikey, this one's a beau'teh. Form-tested, Boro-approved...erm, ahem, Ni-approved too.

Durelin · 05-02-2011, 08:24 PM

Congratulations! To happiness!

Kuruharan · 05-02-2011, 08:42 PM

Congratulations!

As one who has recently attained the married state, I can tell you that a happy marriage is the most wonderful thing in the world.

Rikae · 05-02-2011, 10:34 PM

Congratulations! I wish you both all the best!

(...but what kind of hopeless geek marries someone they met on a Tolkien forum?

)

Eomer of the Rohirrim · 05-03-2011, 05:44 AM

Ah me! History, indeed, is much like an endless waltz: the three beats of war, peace and Barrow-Downers getting married continue on forever.

Many congratulations to the happy couple. Nienna, I don't know you so well, but I trust you are aware that your future husband is an esteemed scholar of Wargs and Wargdom in general; so I'm sure that the marriage will indeed be blessed.

alatar · 05-03-2011, 08:15 AM

Wow! Congratulations!

Maybe the Downs should start running ads for wedding gowns, halls, Rings, etc.

satansaloser2005 · 05-03-2011, 08:23 AM

Oh, flipping seriously, again? Not another one. *grumble grumble grumble*

Ahem. I mean....

SQUEE! ^_^

Congratulations to the both of you! Now I wonder who will be next?

Rikae · 05-03-2011, 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by satansaloser2005

Congratulations to the both of you! Now I wonder who will be next?

My money's on any of the grumblers.

Nerwen · 05-03-2011, 03:18 PM

*throws confetti*

The Wolfy-game dating site strikes again!

Nogrod · 05-03-2011, 03:33 PM

If someone would count the number of active posters and the intimate relationships come reality thereafter, the Barrow Downs would beat any "match-making" sites easily!

(love your comment Rikae!!!)

All the best to you, you good people!

Lhunardawen · 05-03-2011, 09:50 PM

I already expressed my greetings in another corner of the interwebs but I guess it's much different saying it as Lhuna, so...

Congratulations (again), Form and Nienna!

(Is it just me, or does there seem to be a pattern emerging?)

Eomer of the Rohirrim · 05-04-2011, 04:23 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nerwen

*throws confetti*

The Wolfy-game dating site strikes again!

I'll need to let mum know that her description remains valid.

Oddwen · 05-04-2011, 10:16 AM

Congratulations to you both!

Estelyn Telcontar · 05-04-2011, 12:14 PM

Congratulations to the two of you! I wish you all the best!

But really, Formy, you should watch out - someone could make an inappropriate connection between this news and your signature:

Quote:

Wake now, wake now! War is kindled.

Loslote · 05-04-2011, 07:01 PM

Happy news much?

Congratulations!

Galadriel55 · 05-04-2011, 07:17 PM

I'll wager that in a few years there'll be a thread called "Yet another new 'Downer" started by Form and Nienna. How likely is this to happen? Pretty likey, methinks.

I'm so happy for you both! *jumps on her bed from over-excitement*

Lalaith · 05-05-2011, 02:15 PM

Dear Form and Nienna, many congratulations.

Hilde Bracegirdle · 05-05-2011, 03:50 PM

Oh yes! Best wishes for a long and happy life together! And many thanks for sharing your happy news with us.

Thinlómien · 05-07-2011, 05:44 AM

Kind of feeling the same as Lhuna - it would be appropriate to congratulate you here too. So, once more, congrats dear Formy and Nienna! All the best to both of you.

Blind Guardian · 05-12-2011, 05:47 PM

Congrats to you two! I hope you are happy together!

Folwren · 08-26-2011, 09:36 PM

I'm rather late, but I just saw this today...

Congratulations, Formy and Nienna! That's really exciting.

Hoping the best for you and that your marriage is a blessed one.

-- Folwren

Legolas · 12-30-2011, 12:51 PM

I totally missed this as well - am terrible about checking the 'other' forums sometimes.

This is awesome. Congratulations to the both of you. I know this is at least the second instance of folks coming together after meeting through BD!

Any chance of a bit of Tolkiendom making its way into the ceremony? I can understand where it could be considered cheesy or whimsical, especially to family/friends looking on with no connection themselves, but it could also be done tastefully and appropriately.

Many who might criticize such should consider that they may be willing to have some sappy love song off the radio to serve them similarly. Is that so different?

Mithalwen · 12-30-2011, 03:43 PM

Legolas, you have a bit more catching up to do...which do you think is the other one and we will fill you in....I mean there are babies who are no longer really babies now.....

Feanor of the Peredhil · 06-27-2012, 08:43 AM

Even [or especially] while celebrating the nuptials of Mr. and Mrs. Niennamendacil.

(From the left: Encaitare, Bethberry, Lariren Shadow, Boromir88, Rune, Ni, Formy, me, Wilwa, Glirdy, and Mirandir. Photo credits for this particular shot go to Mira's fella with a shoutout to Mira for disappearing with me in the middle of the Reception to go buy more batteries.)

--

(I'd hold off on posting pics until they're back from their honeymoon, but they're all over Facebook already from just about everyone in attendance.)

--

MANY CONGRATULATIONS TO MY SISTERBIRD AND MY HONORARY BIG BROTHER!

Inziladun · 06-27-2012, 09:42 AM

Excellent!

Many congratulations to both, and my prayer for a long and happy life together.

Boromir88 · 06-27-2012, 10:24 AM

Pictures are everywhere, but I just have to put up a couple of favs...like teaching Wilwa the electric slide

It was a beautiful wedding and much love to the bride and groom.

Galadriel55 · 06-27-2012, 10:27 AM

Congratulations!!!

My best wishes to you both!

Bethberry, beware - you'll be pestered for details the next smial moot!

PS: looks like you all had loads of fun there!

Kuruharan · 06-27-2012, 10:44 AM

Huzzah and huzzah again!

Best wishes now and for all your days to come!

05-02-2011, 08:33 AM	#1
Formendacil Dead Serious Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Perched on Thangorodrim's towers. Posts: 3,326	Formendacil and Nienna Announce Their Engagement Because of the fact that this site played a central role in our original acquaintance and in the earlier stages of simple friendship development, it seemed fair that the "breaking news" of our engagement on the Internet should be made here, rather than Facebook--though the paparazzi have already leaked it there. Approximately two years ago, I met Nienna, while I was meeting one Feanor of the Peredhil, whose roommate she happened to be. In the aftermath of that meeting, we became friends and when I was looking to make a major change in my life plans--and in so doing move as far away as I could from western Canada--I made a choice to go somewhere I knew people: namely Boston, where I had met the aforementioned ladies. This fateful decision and the fact that Nienna was the person I knew best in Boston eventually led to our friendship developing into a romantic relationship, and even before I moved to Boston, we were "a couple" (as any Downer who was at Bostonmoot could probably attest). Yesterday I got down on one knee and pulled out a ring, and asked her to marry me--and she said yes!--thus putting us in line for becoming the next in a string of "Downer Married Couples." Given the importance this website has played in allowing us to meet each other, you all have our thanks on that basic level, but you are quite a bit more than just that. Many of you have become the extended social circle that has provided a number of real-life friends, and it is highly conceivable that a number of you will be posting to the "I met a fellow BDer" thread in the wake of our nuptials (which, for those inquiring, is tentatively dated for "June-ish, 2012"). __________________ I prefer history, true or feigned.

05-02-2011, 08:38 AM	#2
Inziladun Gruesome Spectre Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: Heaven's doorstep Posts: 8,037	Let me be the first to congratulate you here, my friend! All the best wishes for your future happiness. __________________ Music alone proves the existence of God.

05-02-2011, 09:57 AM	#3
Rumil Sage & Onions Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Britain Posts: 894	Many Congratulations Formendacil and Nienna! __________________ Rumil of Coedhirion

05-02-2011, 12:49 PM	#4
Feanor of the Peredhil La Belle Dame sans Merci Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: perpetual uncertainty Posts: 5,517	Congratulations, my darlings. You know I've always wished you both nothing but the best. Unless you try to dress me in pumpkin orange (I am glaring straight at you, Formykins), in which case I am boycotting your wedding and sabotaging the hen party. __________________ peace

05-02-2011, 01:15 PM	#5
Pitchwife Wight of the Old Forest Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Unattended on the railway station, in the litter at the dancehall Posts: 3,329	Now if that doesn't beat the royal wedding! I'm glad for you two and wish you all the best for a happy future marriage! __________________ Und aus dem Erebos kamen viele seelen herauf der abgeschiedenen toten.- Homer, Odyssey, Canto XI

05-02-2011, 02:25 PM	#6
Eönwë Flame Imperishable Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Right here Posts: 3,928	Wow! Congratulations Formy and Nienna! __________________ Welcome to the Barrow Do-owns Forum / Such a lovely place

05-02-2011, 02:30 PM	#7
piosenniel Desultory Dwimmerlaik Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Pickin' flowers with Bill the Cat..... Posts: 7,779	Congratulations to you both! Wishing you a very happy life together!! ~*~ Pio __________________ Eldest, that’s what I am . . . I knew the dark under the stars when it was fearless - before the Dark Lord came from Outside.

05-02-2011, 03:48 PM	#8
Boromir88 Laconic Loreman Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: USA Posts: 7,518	Love both of you very dearly, you know this __________________ Fenris Penguin

05-02-2011, 03:52 PM	#9
Galadriel55 Blossom of Dwimordene Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: The realm of forgotten words Posts: 10,382	<-- For your future, Formy and Nienna! :) Congratulations!!! I wish you all the best! __________________ You passed from under darkened dome, you enter now the secret land. - Take me to Finrod's fabled home!... ~ Finrod: The Rock Opera

05-02-2011, 04:44 PM	#10
Nienna Ghost Prince of Cardolan Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: School Posts: 642	Thank you all for your congratulations and well wishes. For those who'd like the story in a bit more sappy version: Formendacil and I were going out to my back yard to take some new pictures of us together. We were all dressed nice and I wanted a new picture of us together. We got out to the spot and then instead of pulling the camera out of his pocket he pulled the little ring box and got down on his knee. It was very adorable. And the ring is gorgeous (if a tad big). __________________ Puddle! Puddle!

05-02-2011, 05:19 PM	#11
Mnemosyne Ghost Prince of Cardolan Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Between the past and the future Posts: 1,159	Oh, no, not again... No, seriously, congratulations to the both of you. __________________ Got corsets?

05-02-2011, 08:24 PM	#14
Durelin Estelo dagnir, Melo ring Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 3,063	Congratulations! To happiness!

05-02-2011, 08:42 PM	#15
Kuruharan Regal Dwarven Shade Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: A Remote Dwarven Hold Posts: 3,589	Congratulations! As one who has recently attained the married state, I can tell you that a happy marriage is the most wonderful thing in the world. __________________ ...finding a path that cannot be found, walking a road that cannot be seen, climbing a ladder that was never placed, or reading a paragraph that has no...

05-02-2011, 10:34 PM	#16
Rikae Mellifluous Maia Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: A glade open to the stars, deep in Nan Elmoth Posts: 3,489	Congratulations! I wish you both all the best! (...but what kind of hopeless geek marries someone they met on a Tolkien forum? )

05-03-2011, 05:44 AM	#17
Eomer of the Rohirrim Auspicious Wraith Join Date: May 2002 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 4,859	Ah me! History, indeed, is much like an endless waltz: the three beats of war, peace and Barrow-Downers getting married continue on forever. Many congratulations to the happy couple. Nienna, I don't know you so well, but I trust you are aware that your future husband is an esteemed scholar of Wargs and Wargdom in general; so I'm sure that the marriage will indeed be blessed. __________________ Los Ingobernables de Harlond

05-03-2011, 08:15 AM	#18
alatar Doubting Dwimmerlaik Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Heaven's basement Posts: 2,466	Wow! Congratulations! Maybe the Downs should start running ads for wedding gowns, halls, Rings, etc. __________________ There is naught that you can do, other than to resist, with hope or without it.

05-03-2011, 08:23 AM	#19
satansaloser2005 The Sweetest Spoiler Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: from beneath you it giggles incessantly Posts: 5,789	Oh, flipping seriously, again? Not another one. grumble grumble grumble Ahem. I mean.... SQUEE! ^_^ Congratulations to the both of you! Now I wonder who will be next? __________________ "My heart always cowers behind the defense of my wit." Friendship is two pals munching on a well-cooked face together. Fenris bookworm.

05-03-2011, 03:18 PM	#21
Nerwen Wisest of the Noldor Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: ˙˙˙ssɐןƃ ƃuıʞooן ǝɥʇ ɥƃnoɹɥʇ Posts: 6,694	throws confetti The Wolfy-game dating site strikes again! __________________ "Even Nerwen wasn't evil in the beginning." –Elmo.

05-03-2011, 03:33 PM	#22
Nogrod Flame of the Ainulindalë Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Wearing rat's coat, crowskin, crossed staves in a field behaving as the wind behaves Posts: 9,308	If someone would count the number of active posters and the intimate relationships come reality thereafter, the Barrow Downs would beat any "match-making" sites easily! (love your comment Rikae!!!) All the best to you, you good people! __________________ Upon the hearth the fire is red Beneath the roof there is a bed; But not yet weary are our feet...

05-03-2011, 09:50 PM	#23
Lhunardawen Hauntress of the Havens Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: IN it, but not OF it Posts: 2,538	I already expressed my greetings in another corner of the interwebs but I guess it's much different saying it as Lhuna, so... Congratulations (again), Form and Nienna! (Is it just me, or does there seem to be a pattern emerging?)

05-04-2011, 10:16 AM	#25
Oddwen Drummer in the Deep Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Next Sunday A.D. Posts: 2,145	Congratulations to you both! __________________ But all the while I sit and think of times there were before I listen for returning feet and voices at the door

05-04-2011, 07:01 PM	#27
Loslote The Werewolf's Companion Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: The Moon Posts: 3,021	Happy news much? Congratulations! __________________ I have loved the stars too fondly to be fearful of the night. Double Fenris

05-04-2011, 07:17 PM	#28
Galadriel55 Blossom of Dwimordene Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: The realm of forgotten words Posts: 10,382	Making predictions... I'll wager that in a few years there'll be a thread called "Yet another new 'Downer" started by Form and Nienna. How likely is this to happen? Pretty likey, methinks. I'm so happy for you both! jumps on her bed from over-excitement __________________ You passed from under darkened dome, you enter now the secret land. - Take me to Finrod's fabled home!... ~ Finrod: The Rock Opera

05-05-2011, 02:15 PM	#29
Lalaith Blithe Spirit Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 2,779	Dear Form and Nienna, many congratulations. __________________ Out went the candle, and we were left darkling

05-05-2011, 03:50 PM	#30
Hilde Bracegirdle Relic of Wandering Days Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: You'll See Perpetual Change. Posts: 1,480	Oh yes! Best wishes for a long and happy life together! And many thanks for sharing your happy news with us.

05-07-2011, 05:44 AM	#31
Thinlómien Shady She-Penguin Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: In a far land beyond the Sea Posts: 8,093	Kind of feeling the same as Lhuna - it would be appropriate to congratulate you here too. So, once more, congrats dear Formy and Nienna! All the best to both of you. __________________ Like the stars chase the sun, over the glowing hill I will conquer Blood is running deep, some things never sleep Double Fenris

08-26-2011, 09:36 PM	#33
Folwren Messenger of Hope Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: In a tiny, insignificant little town in one of the many States. Posts: 5,076	I'm rather late, but I just saw this today... Congratulations, Formy and Nienna! That's really exciting. Hoping the best for you and that your marriage is a blessed one. -- Folwren __________________ A young man who wishes to remain a sound atheist cannot be too careful of his reading. - C.S. Lewis

12-30-2011, 12:51 PM	#34
Legolas A Northern Soul Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Valinor Posts: 1,847	I totally missed this as well - am terrible about checking the 'other' forums sometimes. This is awesome. Congratulations to the both of you. I know this is at least the second instance of folks coming together after meeting through BD! Any chance of a bit of Tolkiendom making its way into the ceremony? I can understand where it could be considered cheesy or whimsical, especially to family/friends looking on with no connection themselves, but it could also be done tastefully and appropriately. Many who might criticize such should consider that they may be willing to have some sappy love song off the radio to serve them similarly. Is that so different? __________________ ...take counsel with thyself, and remember who and what thou art.

12-30-2011, 03:43 PM	#35
Mithalwen Pilgrim Soul Join Date: May 2004 Location: watching the wonga-wonga birds circle... Posts: 9,455	Legolas, you have a bit more catching up to do...which do you think is the other one and we will fill you in....I mean there are babies who are no longer really babies now..... __________________ “But Finrod walks with Finarfin his father beneath the trees in Eldamar.” Christopher Tolkien, Requiescat in pace

06-27-2012, 08:43 AM	#36
Feanor of the Peredhil La Belle Dame sans Merci Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: perpetual uncertainty Posts: 5,517	Barrowdowners have trouble holding still for photos... Even [or especially] while celebrating the nuptials of Mr. and Mrs. Niennamendacil. (From the left: Encaitare, Bethberry, Lariren Shadow, Boromir88, Rune, Ni, Formy, me, Wilwa, Glirdy, and Mirandir. Photo credits for this particular shot go to Mira's fella with a shoutout to Mira for disappearing with me in the middle of the Reception to go buy more batteries.) -- (I'd hold off on posting pics until they're back from their honeymoon, but they're all over Facebook already from just about everyone in attendance.) -- MANY CONGRATULATIONS TO MY SISTERBIRD AND MY HONORARY BIG BROTHER!

06-27-2012, 09:42 AM	#37
Inziladun Gruesome Spectre Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: Heaven's doorstep Posts: 8,037	Excellent! Many congratulations to both, and my prayer for a long and happy life together. __________________ Music alone proves the existence of God.

06-27-2012, 10:24 AM	#38
Boromir88 Laconic Loreman Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: USA Posts: 7,518	Pictures are everywhere, but I just have to put up a couple of favs...like teaching Wilwa the electric slide It was a beautiful wedding and much love to the bride and groom. __________________ Fenris Penguin Last edited by Boromir88; 06-27-2012 at 10:49 AM.

06-27-2012, 10:27 AM	#39
Galadriel55 Blossom of Dwimordene Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: The realm of forgotten words Posts: 10,382	Congratulations!!! My best wishes to you both! Bethberry, beware - you'll be pestered for details the next smial moot! PS: looks like you all had loads of fun there! __________________ You passed from under darkened dome, you enter now the secret land. - Take me to Finrod's fabled home!... ~ Finrod: The Rock Opera

06-27-2012, 10:44 AM	#40
Kuruharan Regal Dwarven Shade Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: A Remote Dwarven Hold Posts: 3,589	Hooray! Huzzah and huzzah again! Best wishes now and for all your days to come! __________________ ...finding a path that cannot be found, walking a road that cannot be seen, climbing a ladder that was never placed, or reading a paragraph that has no...