distortions in relationships in LOTR

hi I'm new here but I have been wondering about something and wondered whether anyone has thought this or has any comments on it. i am a big lotr fan and i enjoy the humor on this site and others as well. but some people seem to distort what tolkien has written, especially regarding the relationships between frodo and sam and even legolas and gimli. cant some people get that tolkien meant that frodo and sam were just exceptionally good friends? and not lovers or anything like that? i think that the most honorable type of friendship is one that one lays down his life for the other. im not homophobic or anything, but i tend to get frustrated when people dont understand it, because it is one of the reasons i like lotr so much. i realize that people just want to get a laugh, but it irritates me sometimes. does anyone have any comments on this?