Feanor Self-Important?

[Gorthol]

the Teleri could've ferried the Noldor across and then sailed the ships home themselves.

I second to this! To start a war over the ships wasn't the right way to go, it would have been better for all if the Teleri just had complied with Fëanors wishes, right or wrong. I doubt Ossë would have sunken any ships if they had been used as "ferrys" instead of taken by force and through the deaths of many Teleri.

However, what I have a hard time understanding is that the Valar seems to put so much of the blame of everything that happened on Fëanor and the Noldor, eventhough it was the lies of Melkor that corrputed them..