Do Elves lack Civil Courgae?

[Orphalesion]

Hello everyone,

First of all, I want to say, I do not mean this as a form of "Elf-bashing". The Elves, especially the Galadhrim, are my second favorite people of Middle Earth (after the Hobbits) and Galadriel is my favorite character. Yet sometimes, when reading the Silmarillion I cannot help but wonder about the apparent dependency common Elves seem to have towards their leaders, I'm almost tempted to call it "spinelessness", it just seems like they are unable to think for themselves or make decision independent or contrary to the will of their leader(s).
Now I understand it is perfectly possible that it only appears that way because the the Silmarillion is little more than a "summary" of the tales. And I also understand that I might look at it from a perspective that is "too modern", but let me explain:

Basically, in my opinion the whole thing of Elves following their leaders blindly becomes apparent during the Rebellion of the Noldor. Now I think that is a wonderful, dramatic story and it pains me that Tolkien was never able to put it into a shape similar to the LOTR, but at certain parts it makes me downright uncomfortable and a bit angry. As in: I do not for the life of me understand why so many of the Noldor continue to follow Feanor and his sons. Alqualonde might "just" have been a tense situation that escalated very badly but after this throughout the Silmarillion we have situations like this:

Feanor decides to burn the ships and maroon the majority of the Noldor to an uncertain fate in a hostile environment: Nobody dares to speak against that (except one feeble attempt by Maedhros and, if you accept HOME lore, Amras)

Maedhros and his brothers, after suffering heavy losses and being reduced to scratching out a meager living in the wilderness decide to invade and massacre another Elf nation: All their followers go along with it.

Maedhros and his remaining brothers, decide to attack what amounts to a giant REFUGEE CAMP (basically committing a war crime): All their followers go along with it (except a few who decide to stand against them at the last minute but do not accomplish anything)

and even among the other Elves:

Turgon chooses to ignore Ulmo's warnings to flee Gondolin: Nobody even considers leaving against his will.
Elwing refuses to hand over a shiny jewel to crazed fanatics who threaten to murder her and her people if she doesn't(and who have already killed all of her family): Nobody considers rebelling against her and forcing her to hand over the Silmaril to the Feanorians.
And the people of Nargothrond seem like be biggest sheeple ever; easily swayed by Celegorm, Curufin and Turin, culminating in their destruction.

So basically what I want to know; why do you think that there is such a lack of Elves rebelling against their kings and lords (for that matter why do Elves even have kings and lords that have no other claim to rule other than that they are descendants of what a mounts to "a guy who was among the first to go to Valinor". Why are there no stories about some courageous, low-born Elf standing up against Feanor at Lossanach and splitting away from his faction? Why were their no Elves who tried to escape Gondoling against Trugon's orders? Why was nobody smacking Elwing in the face for trading the lives of everybody around her (including her children) for jewelry? Why don't we know the names of the Feanorian soldiers who decided to fight against their own commanders and friends rather than to massacre innocent civilians? Why is Galadriel the only one of the Noldor mentioned by name to rebel against Feanor in Alqualonde and take up arms in defense of the Teleri?

Sorry for the long post, that's just something I have wanted to discuss for a long time.